How can we truly teach Love?

How can we truly teach Love?

Extract from “Beyond a Course in Miracles” by Phoebe Lauren & Sylvain du Boullay

We teach what we believe in and others learn what we teach as well as we learn from others what they teach. So it is up to me to decide what I want to learn from my brother (or sister) who has been sent to me. Shall I see him/her wanting, weak and attacking? Or shall I be willing to see what he/she truly is: perfection and love? The way I want to see him entails what he will teach me. And what he teaches me, I will teach. My brother is truly a savior in that sense, and when I realize through my recognition of his total love that I am saved, then he can not to recognize his total peace in me.

How can I recognize that my brother is total love? I can only do this by blessing him, by offering him silently all love and by asking Spirit in me to show me my brother's perfection. When I do this, I totally cease to judge him and allow my experience of love to come. This experience brings me the awareness of what love is. It brings me a deep sense of peace, happiness and true sharing.

Then I begin to understand what true sharing means because I see others learn by “my” example. Yet, it is not “my” private example but rather the sense of love that is felt by others through me.

Sooner or later my brother cannot fail to recognize his total peace through me, as I was able to recognize mine through him.

This is how my brother and I are saved together.

Each relationship I have with a brother is an opportunity for me and for him to be saved together. What I have to understand is that I must not ask anything from him. I must not want him to change his behavior in any way because if I do this I deny him perfection. What matters for me in a relationship is to let it be holy – or fully loving – through my own willingness and not his. This is how we truly teach love and nothing else. This is the only way to be truly helpful.